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Super tickled about my garden this year. 1st time doing a garden and it worked.  I learned a lot by talking to people, watching youtube videos and getting my hands dirty and just doing it. Preparing the soil was a big lesson learned.  Heard that over and over again from videos and other gardeners was to take the time to build a great soil for the seeds to grow in. Yay for gardens!!!

Peel the Onion - Money Issues Part 2

Many layers to a better experience with money.

I remember when I was 14 years old I was walking through the dining room at home and I saw my mom at the table with papers all over the table and she was crying.  I am the oldest of us 6 kids.  I felt like I had a lot of responsibility for taking care of my siblings and also my mom.  I highly respect my mom.  She is the kind of person who will easily walk through the gates of heaven…no one will stop her from getting in, she has a heart of gold.  There she was…looking at all those papers on the table and she was crying…it stopped me in my tracks…”Mom, why are you crying?  Can I help you?”  She looked up at me….and in between her tears she quietly said, “we don’t have enough money to pay all these bills and I don’t know what to do….”  

In that moment it broke my heart….I had no idea what to do to help her….and from my 14 year old mind….all I saw with my eyes and felt with my heart was that money is a painful experience and so…money is bad because it’s making my mom cry and I can’t save her.  Very innocent experience to misunderstand and misinterpret what was going on ... .but the crazy thing is that the new “money statement” or “money belief” got deeply planted in my being.  Now for the next 25 years I would deal with this faulty philosophy that I took on.

After I sent you last week's email my mind kept spinning on this topic and I felt moved to take one more email and talk to you about your money issues…..this also will help you with your clients money issues.

Also, in last week's email I gave you questions to ponder and asked you to write down your answers to those and then to review and recite those answers every morning and night to reshape and reset your mind with your NEW money perception.  I hope you took action on this…if not…pull up last week's email and do the exercise, it’s simple, and get that process started as soon as you can.

Next Layer

This one steps a little more into the deep end.  Money is connected to Love.  Before you switch off and think this is crazy…I understand.  The first time I heard this in a training I was in….I turned off from the speaker….NO…money and love are not connected.  No way.  20 years later…I can tell you, I wish I would've followed what I was taught back then, I would be further then where I am right now.

When I don't appreciate ME….my value goes down.
When I don’t like ME…my value goes down.
When I am critical about ME…my value goes down.
When I don't take care of MYSELF….my value goes down.
When I let negative thoughts eat ME alive…my value goes down.
When I unfairly compare MYSELF to others…my value goes down. 
When I put MYSELF down…my value goes down.

The level of Personal Value you have will directly affect your experience with money. 

Having low personal value can actually blind & block you of Money Making opportunities.
You can’t see it.
You can’t act on it.
You will lack the motivation to do anything.
Money Making opportunities could actually feel irritating and repulsive.
Believe me, I’ve been coaching for 19 years, I have seen this happen over and over again with people.

How to Solve this.
Appreciate yourself.  Compliment every small thing you do.
Forgive yourself quickly and often and every day.
Like yourself.  Find what is good and emphasize it everyday.
Take care of yourself. Go for a walk. Read a book. Listen to music. Get a haircut.  Eat your veggies.
Tell the bullies in your head to shut up and get out.  Defend yourself.  Stand up for who you are.
Build yourself up.  It’s your job to build a better version of you.  Talk good to yourself.
Watch funny videos.  Laugh. 
Watch inspiring videos….cry.  Good for your soul to cry.
Watch a sunrise…or a sunset…put your phone away…sit still and watch the miracles of nature.
When you can, compliment someone.  Sending good vibes through texts to others is awesome!

You are worth more than money.
Don’t wait for money to make your life better.

Coach your clients on this.  Even if they don’t bring this up, you start the conversation.
Deep inside they could be struggling with this.

The mind is the soil of the garden.
Prepare it…so when you plant an idea….that idea can take root and grow.

Stronger ~ Lighter ~ Smarter

Kirk

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Stronger ~ Lighter ~ Smarter

Kirk