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Body Language is…

Felt it- Didn't express it
Thought it - Held back

Learn how to Listen with your Eyes

Reading body language gives you the advantage to see the messages even when they have stopped talking. You have a natural ability to recognize body language. It’s in all of us. You also can learn what to pay attention to and increase your skill so you can see and interpret even more.

Before we dive into reading eye movements I’ll cover a few pro-tips.

1. Don’t tell anyone that you are looking at their body language, it creeps them out.

2. Don’t point out anyone's body language to them or to others. Most of the time they will disagree with you or run away from you.

3. Stay teachable….there are many depths of learning to read the signals.

4. Use this skill for good….if you turn evil and use this for bad, we’ll find you and lock you up.

Ok, let’s talk about eyes.

The key movements I focus on with eyes are…

• Looking to the side

• Looking down

• Looking up

These 3 help me dial in on them quickly.

• Up = Ideas, inspiration, beyond their normal understanding

• Down = Emotions are stirring and flooding the body

• Side = checking in on their own internal voice…OR….others opinions OR listening to devils/ angels. Listening to someone.

While I am talking or listening to them if they keep glancing down…I know that there are emotions involved…this signal happens before the emotion actually gets activated….so it’s a sign before the emotions show up. Gives me a chance to prep for what’s coming….or…to ask them….what are you feeling?  That question always shocks them….and they look at me weird like I can “read” them or something. It sure grabs their attention and they begin to realize that I am not like others. Many times the person denies they had an emotion forming….hahaha…it feels weird to them that someone like me could see or sense that before the evidence of emotion shows up.

When they glance to the side…I now know that they are listening to someone….I like to say to them…”who’s advice is coming to you right now?” That also shocks them….and they wonder how I knew that they are listening to someone.  You see, they have no idea what their eyes are giving away…no one pays attention to where their eyes move during a conversation.

When they glance up….I know they are getting a “download” (inspiration, ideas, answers). I like to catch that one when it happens too….When they keep glancing up….I ask…”What’s coming to you? Are you getting an answer?”

When you can give signals that you are that “intune” to them….they usually are in awe! Such a different experience for them to have someone listen and notice so much about them.

Remember, don’t give away that you are watching their eye movements. NO matter how much they quiz you…don’t tell them…as soon as you tell them you will notice they will pull away from you. It really does creep them out.

How to catch a lie?

Usually they will look up to the right…that signals that they are fabricating the answer…it’s not always a lie…but the next answer they give you was just now pulled together.  The other signals to watch for to catch a lie…

• Excessive self soothing - rubbing hands, neck or thighs.

• Adjusting clothing repeatedly.

• Fidgeting that wasn’t there before. 

• Excessive touching of throat, mouth, nose or face.

• Crossing arms tightly.

• Turning torso away while still talking.

• Delays in answering your questions.

• Escalated tone or volume for no apparent reason.

It’s good to know the signs. I’m sure you agree, being lied to causes so many more problems.

Catch the signals and ask the person to repeat what they just told you. When you have them repeat the information you most likely will hear the details change. DON’T TELL THEM you are reading their body language.

For fun, while you are visiting with others try to pay attention to where your OWN eyes look. Your own body language is telling others more than what you are saying. Start paying attention to your hand movements and how you are standing. 

Next time I show up in your inbox I’ll tell you about hand movements….and stances. More insight to help you understand others better!  Love it!

Kirk

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Coach Kirk