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Intuition Do’s & Don’ts

“Just because you receive the message doesn’t 
mean you’re supposed to deliver it.”

I teach a class called “Built to Sense”.
It’s all about using your intuition to listen to people beyond what you hear them say. These are listening skills that tap into the inner dialog. 

It’s common for someone to hold back information or to alter the truthfulness of what they say. This skill of intuition gives you the ability to find the truth AND the missing pieces in the stories they tell. It’s essential for coaching.

As they become more accurate in their intuition they tend to get more bold and comfortable about speaking up and telling others what they sense. It would seem like this is would be a good thing….but it can get reckless really quick.

Safety during a coaching session is priceless and necessary. Just because you are more in tune with what is going on inside of a person, it doesn’t mean that you now have the authority to expose and uncover what they choose to edit and hide.

There must be guidelines to keep your rapport in good standing.
If you lose the trust, your client could ditch you.

The Do’s and Don’ts of Sharing What You Sense

Most empaths mess up not because they’re wrong…but because they forget how to handle their gift with maturity, humility, and respect.

✅ THE DO’S ✅

These are the behaviors of a healthy, grounded, emotionally mature empath.
1. DO ask for permission first.
“Can I share something I noticed?”
Consent is sacred.

2. DO stay humble, you might be wrong.
Even if it feels strong, stay open and curious, not commanding or certain.

3. DO speak with compassion, not authority.
Empath insight isn’t a weapon, it’s a gift to help, not to dominate.

4. DO keep the message simple and clean.
Avoid over-explaining, justifying, or turning it into a full reading.

5. DO read the person before the message.
Body language matters more than intuition when it comes to delivery.

6. DO take “No thanks” gracefully.
A mature empath can back out calmly without collapsing emotionally.

7. DO use language that gives THEM power.
“Does this make sense to you?”
“You can ignore it if it doesn’t resonate.”

8. DO stay grounded and non-dramatic.
People trust calm energy.
Drama feels manipulative.

9. DO share from service, not ego.
Your job is not to be impressive.
Your job is to be helpful.

10. DO trust God, timing, and the person’s free will.
You’re not responsible for their reaction or choices.

This is maturity.
This is mastery.
This is the mark of a trustworthy empath.

❌ THE DON’TS ❌

These are the behaviors that sabotage trust and make empaths look intrusive.

1. DON’T walk up to people and unload messages without permission.
This is empath entitlement, the #1 problem.

2. DON’T tell people “I know what you’re feeling” without consent.
It’s invasive and can feel controlling or creepy.

3. DON’T assume your intuition overrides their boundaries.
Gift ≠ authority.
Insight ≠ ownership.

4. DON’T scare people with warnings, predictions, or dark statements.
If the message raises fear, rethink your delivery or timing.

5. DON’T argue if the person doesn’t believe you.
Let it go.
A message rejected doesn’t mean you failed.

6. DON’T diagnose, label, or “fix” people.
Empathy is not therapy.
Insights are invitations, not conclusions.

7. DON’T act superior because you sensed something.
Arrogance kills spiritual credibility.

8. DON’T force the conversation to continue.
If they pull back → you pull back.

9. DON’T make it about you.
“I’m usually right…”
I’ve been gifted since childhood…”
“I sensed things like this all the time…”

10. DON’T assume every nudge means you’re supposed to speak.
Sometimes the insight is for prayer, awareness, discernment, or timing, not for sharing.

Save this on your phone.
Nothing more heartbreaking than to experience a client disconnecting from you.
It doesn’t need to happen.

Using your intuition to “read” a client is an incredible gift to harness and finetune.
Even if you make a mistake and open your mouth or say too much, don’t shut this gift off.
Learn from what happened and keep your gift open and usable.
There are too many coaches in the world right now that don’t have this type of connectability.

To build up your skill of “listening”, look at this $27 course I built that has 4 videos + Workbook to show you what is the most important steps to take to activate and improve your senses.
Look at it here - 3ke.to/empathskill

My intuition and listening skills are what made a huge difference in growing my coaching business. I stood out from other coaches….I can read people like a book. It was impactful to help the client find what the real “walls” they were up against. They couldn’t figure out why they couldn’t solve their problem.

It’s not too late to activate and learn how to use your intuition.

Alright, cool to share these Do’s & Dont’s with you.
I hope this newsletter makes a difference for you.
I know what it’s like to be a coach.
And by the way….YES….you were meant to do this.
Keep going….you’ll figure it out.
Knock the devils off your shoulder and press forward. :-) 

Kirk

Coach Kirk