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How to adjust your internal thermostat for success
and why it seems like you keep ending up in the same place
It’s just over 2 weeks into January… how are your resolutions going?
How are your clients’ resolutions going?
If you’re like most of the world, you’ve probably hit a wall at this point.
Decided it was too hard to wake up as early as you have been the last couple weeks
Felt like it was time for a “break” from so many days in a row at the gym
Just plain forgot to read that book the last few days
Or just outright threw in the towel on your new eating plan
You’re not alone.
For better or worse (often worse), humans are designed with an internal thermostat.
It’s connected to and influenced by everything in your life.
Just to name a few areas.
And when things start to get better in one or a few areas of your life, your internal thermostat will naturally want to “correct” you back to it’s default setting.
Why would we be built like this?
Because it also works on the flip side.
Many people who go through traumatic experiences, serious injuries, or major losses in life are able to bounce back and reach a similar level of happiness as they had before in life, despite new setbacks.
So yes, it does have it’s benefits - but don’t let it hold you back.
Your internal thermostat CAN be reset, but unfortunately it’s not as easy as pushing a button.
While theres literally dozens of coaching techniques I’ve both learned or personally developed over the last 20 years, the #1 fastest and most potent technique for changing my thermostat is having a set of declarations.
How do you create a set of declarations? It’s easy:
Write down your top 10 “negative thoughts” that tend to pop in your head recently. (might be something like “I’m so stupid” or “I’m always screwing things up”)
Flip those around to their opposites AND add an additional positive comment for each one. (“I have great ideas and I’m getting smarter every day” or “I stick with things till I figure them out, and I’m a resourceful problem solver”)
Read these declarations out loud at least every morning and night. More is better!
Get the idea?
Try this, and let me know how it goes.
Teach your coaching clients how to do this too.
You both might be shocked the difference something so simple can have!
Because when your internal thermostat truly reaches a new setting, instead of going 2 steps forward, 2 steps back… you can just keep those 2 steps forward for good.
Then you work to raise your thermostat again…
…and claim another 2 steps forward.
This is how long lasting change and transformation works.
It isn’t easy, but few things in life are more worth your effort than this single purpose.
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Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you'll start having positive results.
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